Update: 'I did all this work just for it to end up like this?': Guy files for divorce after ex-wife confesses she stalked him for years before they met

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    Font - "I stalked my husband for two years before I formally met him"
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    Font - I stalked my husband for two years before I formally met him CONCLUDED I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Hot Relation899 OOP has since deleted her account I stalked my husband for two years before I formally met him Originally posted to r/offmychest Original Post June 30, 2023
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    Font - I (24F) married my husband (28M) about a year and a half ago. The first time I saw my husband I was a freshman in high school, he was a freshman in college. He was walking his dog at the park, when he stopped to talk to my brother (27M) because they happened to go to high school together. That was the moment I became hooked. That same day I found his Instagram, his family's social media, and also where he lived since my brother offered to walk him home while I tagged along. When I got hom
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    Font - I found out his younger brother was only one year younger than me and would be attending my current high school. I figured that I had to befriend his younger brother by any means possible next year when he moves up as a freshman while I become a sophomore, and I did. It took around halfway of my junior year where we became best friends and he invited me over regularly to his house to hangout, this is where I was able to befriend my current husband's mom, and god did she love to talk about
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    Font - his past girlfriends, what his elementary/middle school was, his favorite/least favorite foods, his pet peeves, what he likes, etc etc. Eventually when my visits started getting more and more frequent, I formally met current husband again. Current husband, I'll call him E, would come over every other week and stay for either Friday- Sunday, or Saturday to Sunday. On those days specifically I would wear my cutest outfits to impress him, and also joke around with him a lot. Eventually I bef
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    Font - he is the school record holder for a certain sport at my school, which I just so happened to do. And around halfway through my senior year E came back during the season to help coach the current high school athletes, which included me, in order to get some more volunteer work hours in, and I got to spend a lot more time with him. I loved every second of it. We were friends before, but then we became much closer since I got to spend lots of extra time with him after school, where sometimes
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    Font - Fast forward to when I had to move away to NYC for college, E moved with me since he coincidentally got a job near my college. (Edit: I lied, it wasn't a coincidence. I found out he got a job offer and applied to a college nearby his workplace) Being eachothers only friends in a new state, we became incredibly close.
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    Font - We started dating when I was almost a sophomore year of college, he proposed to me after I graduated, and we just got married almost a year ago. He knows absolutely nothing about how I truly know him, and believes it is fate that brought us together through his younger brother.
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    Font - Lately I have been debating on whether or not I should tell him, or at least his younger brother the truth, since the only reason I befriended him was to get closer to E. I feel guilty every time he tells others our love story, because the truth is, I've known him for 10 years, while he's only known me for about 7.
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    Font - UPDATE: I read a reply saying that the best thing for MYSELF is to keep it a secret, which is what a lot of people are saying, but the best thing for HIM is to tell him, and I figured that person really is right. I will be telling him this Tuesday on his day off, he deserves to know who he married.
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    Font - Update July 6, 2023 I told him this fourth of July. After the fireworks mostly ended and we were heading back, I asked him in the car, "Wouldn't it have been weird if we met each other before the first time we actually met? But we just didn't think of each other as significant at the time?" He smiled and turned to me saying, "Pfft, that's impossible. There's no universe where we would have met and I would not think of you as significant." That statement struck me in the heart, because I k
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    Font - "What if I told you we have met each other before? Before that time I was introduced as 'E's little brother's friend'?" He looked at me like I was crazy, so that's when I pulled over on the side of the road and pulled out my phone to show him the post I put up here before, that explained everything.
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    Font - He took about 8 minutes to read the whole thing, and when he finished he put the phone down and stared straight ahead, almost like he was dumbfounded, scared, and confused all at the same time.
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    Font - I started throwing out every excuse and apology I could muster at the moment for about 15 minutes straight when he decided to tell me to stop, and I did. Then he just sat there and sobbed uncontrollably for about 10 minutes before he finally asked me how much of our relationship, and how much of my identity, was fabricated according to his liking, I told him the honest truth, none of my personality or identity was fabricated for him, accept for the fact of how we met. The only thing I eve
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    Font - He just cried and told me that he does not want to divorce at all, but he does want us to have some time apart so that he could absorb the truth that I gave him. He also said that he expects me to tell his brother and mom this Friday because they deserve to know the truth just as much as he did. I told him okay, and we drove the rest of the ride home in silence. When we got home he hugged me and cried for about 5 minutes before he got out the car, packed his stuff, and said that he will b
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    Font - To sum it all up, I guess telling him was a success? I honestly don't know. He sent me a goodnight and I love you text last night while he was at the hotel, so I guess he's noy as much mad as he may be betrayed?
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    Font - UPDATE 2: Woke up this morning to find out that "hubby" not only lied about going to a hotel to stay at, but also lied about not wanting a divorce, through a text message. He went to his family's home, not a hotel. Told them the entire story himself, probably exaggerated it too to make me seem crazy. His whole family wants nothing to do with me too, claims I'm psycho. He said that he lied about going to a hotel, because he knew if he told the truth I would try to stop him? Honestly I feel
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    Font - Honestly, I kind of deserve it. I didn't even tell him in the first place because I felt bad, I told him because I had a suspicion that he was catching on to the fact that I knew him for two and a half years before he knew me, largely because I found out he was keeping my old phone in his work desk. My old phone that has screenshots of a lot of his old instagram posts, plans in my notes app about him, etc. So I guess he never truly loved me if he can't even get past an honest confession l
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    Font - tooembarrassedtotal2 15 hr. ago I might update this in a few years when I find a new husband lol. Ummmm, watch this space everyone. 8.3k Reply Share
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    Font - Birdlebee 15 hr. ago . Told them the entire story himself, probably exaggerated it too to make me seem crazy. What could he have possibly said that made her sound MORE crazy?! 6.2k Reply Share
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    Rectangle - Clocktopu5 14 hr. ago "honestly I feel so betrayed" Oh SHE feels betrayed 2.9k Reply Share
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    Font - chocobears 15 hr. ago Rarely am I left speechless on Reddit these days but this story... 4.4k Reply Share
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    Font - AlthorsMadness. 15 hr. ago If real ya...... that last update makes her seem even more unhinged than she already was 1.8k Reply Share
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    Font - slugposse 15 hr. ago Makes you wonder if she's already started her dossier on husband number two. 4 2.4k Reply Share
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    Font - NinjaBabaMama 15 hr. ago Screeching on the Front L... I guess he never truly loved me if he can't even get past an honest confession I honestly don't think OOP has a clue what genuine love is. 2.1k Reply Share
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    Font - Just Another Particle 14 hr. ago Yeah, I wouldn't feel okay if I found out the person I loved and married stalked me for years before we met. 818 Reply Share

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